Comfort is King
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Comfort time is King
I just wanted to write a post about a few things in particular. These things have been proven in my eyes with a particular girl that I have been dating from Daygame.
1. As written by Chris Odom in the book ‘Revelations’. He says on a date you want to be outcome independent and just see were things go naturally.
I think this inner game mindset is very, very powerful because it allows the girl to feel comfortable with you and, try and make a connection.
The Mystery Method spoke about 7 hours being the average but to be fair its more like 14 on average.
Contrary to public opinion you can trade your way out of the friendzone if you get put in there. I have done this before.
I noticed that there has always been this big debate about direct vs indirect. I think most guys are focused on the smaller picture.
The bigger picture is more important. Actually its fundamental to female biology. That is a women needs to feel comfortable with you to sleep with you.
Most guys think with their dick and, don’t see it from her point of view or natures point of view.
If guys just adhered to minimum 2+ dates before they started escalating then I think his results would go up.
This whole idea about ‘what do I say’ is also missing the point. If a girl is not interested in sleeping with you then she will NOT shit test you.
Every girl has her timeline when it comes to feeling comfortable with you.
Think of the girl. Put the girl first. Yes thats right put her front and centre first before yourself. She will think ‘fuck this guy is not such a wierd cunt after all’. She’ll probably even sleep with you at some point.
Whether it takes 2 dates or 10. Does it matter. As long as she’s still hanging around with you. She thinks your a cool guy.
Cool guys get laid. Wankers don’t.
Just my thoughts.
Date 3 w / Indonesian girl
This is my third date with a 26 Indonesian girl. She definitely fits the category of YHT.
Did a side stop on her in the china town food court mall area.
It was towards the end of the day on Saturday 5:30 ish.
She lit up like a christmas tree to my Daygame skill set.
First date did the usual stuff. No proximity. No hand hold.
Date two touched her ankle sock as we sat in the library. She recoiled slightly.
Date three went to the beach and fed the seagulls. Proximity was on. Hand hold was on. From there she allowed me to kino her over the course of the day and night. Almost got the kiss. Eyes kept looking away after eye contact. Not at my lips.
Did all the verbal escalation stuff. She responded well to it on date 3.
Big lesson learnt from this girl;
“The game is played in comfort” The Mystery Method.
Being sociable is more important then being sexual. Being sexual comes second.
Always hold the frame. Avoid leaning in at all times. She will test. But let her close the proximity. She will do this slowly over time and after some sufficient testing.
Each girl has their own level of comfort time before they start to trust you.
The average being 2 to 3 dates if not an SDL.
Maybe upto 4 to 5 for some other types of girls.
I hope my experience helps you.
Biggest lesson to take away. Keep jumping in front of those girls with ‘The London Front Stop’.
Comfort
This post is about comfort time and the love bubble.
On the back end dating I think women are attracted to romance or aka the love bubble. Most guys cant give that. Most guys can only give cock or provider stuff.
I notice girls crave the movie moment on a date. Bounce lead bounce lead. Test proximity. Kiss.
They are all movie moments.
The other thing I noticed on the back end is being as socially normal as possible.
Women love socially normal guys. The more you do social stuff with her and the less you try sexual stuff with her it builds the anticipation of sex occuring at some point in the future.
Women love this feeling.
You dont seek an outcome and her love juices bubble while you reframe from sexual overtones. Hence the anticipation going up in her mind.
Women are natural at the feeling of sex. Its automatic. So I advocate doing less. Matter of fact do nothing. Let her heat up in her love juices. She’s automatically doing it for you.
All you have to do is walk around with her and do shit. Wait for the proxy close and hold her hand.
No proximity. No hand hold.
Means no physicality from her. Its never gonna happen. Sex that is. She doesnt see you as sexually attractive. Let her go. Next!!!
But
if she allows proximity then hand hold will occur automatically. Then kiss close. Your on your way 😉
The trick is to walk her around like a puppy dog.
Rack up time in comfort.
The average being 7 hours according to The Mystery Method.
Subcommunication
There are some basic truths, I’ve learnt from chatting up women on the street.
The power of subcommunication. Being in the moment with your thoughts and, expressing them through the implied.
That authenticity or spontaneity is your VIBE.
Underneath that is your STATE.
Clearing your mind of the past and future. Expressing whatever comes into it in that moment is key.
The moment comes and the moment goes. A new moment comes and it goes again. You have to let go of that fleeting moment and embrace the new one just as quickly as the old one came and went. This is called being in the now. Being in the moment.
I noticed that women are designed to read facial expressions far better than men.
I think women are attracted to men who have the look of ‘now’.
This is the basis of attraction.
Think a wicked thought about her as you look into her eyes. See that thought crystalize in her eyes. Thats without saying anything.
If you have to say something sexual, infer it. Inference is more powerful then stating it.
Let her draw her own conclusions. Let her imagination run wild. It will do all the work for you. She will then connect those fantasies to you.
Remember, inference is King.
Proximity
I had my best day out doing Daygame yesterday.
Had a stunning girl on an idate and, k closed her.
I just wanted to write about the things I learnt from the idate.
What I learnt from nature is the concept of pair bonding. E.g when you see a bird in your backyard for the first time they tend to run away. As time goes on and, you continue to see the same bird I noticed that they start to come closer.
They even start to hang out with you when your around.
It’s because they are pair bonding with you and thus trust you.
You see this with pigs and sheep on farms. If they are together long enough they become a herd. Best mates
I think Men and Women are the same. So what I do is walk the girl from the pickup location to the coffee shop. From the coffee shop to the park. From the park to the alcohol venue etc.
As you do this I noticed the girl starts to accept you more. She is pair bonding with you from walking with you. You lead and she follows. Just like walking a dog. To clarify girls are not dogs by the way. You get my point.
Then you can start the hands, isolation, k close process.
Just be aware not to go past the point of no return. Refer to The Mystery Method book on this point.
Pair Bonding
What I’ve noticed since I started ‘game’ and, what means more to the girl then sex is ‘pair bonding’ and, wanting ‘sex’ less then the girl.
Now I know some of you reading this are gonna be like ‘your talking shite’ and, that ‘you gotta strike while the iron is hot etc etc da di da…di da?!’.
The fact of the matter, through my own experience of what I have seen and done is that ‘Daygame’ gives you an introduction and, connection to the girl but ultimately it’s ‘time spent in comfort’ that has the greatest impact.
‘Pair Bonding’ and, kino’ing at the same time ‘on’ and, ‘off’ are by far the 2 most powerful things in courting a women to the bedroom.
Of course you still have to play ‘the game’.
Lead, lead, lead. ‘Bounce’, move the girl, don’t be static in one spot for to long.
Do shit with the girl. What I mean is not trying to get laid but doing activities together.
Keep leading her to different activities.
I noticed through this process ‘Pair Bonding’ is created and, the women starts to cling to you’.
The second point is wanting to ‘fuck her’ less then her wanting to fuck you.
The reasoning behind this logic is that I noticed girls get turned off if your constantly ‘pulling’.
Women are more attracted to the ‘push’.
That means that you’ve gotta want it less then her.
Now I put a caveat to that. You can still have a sexual interest in her…. but less then her.
The end result is that you end up racking up “comfort time” as The Mystery Method says.
Now, the final step is to ‘risk’ loosing it all.
You have to now risk loosing the girl altogether by “Pulling the trigger” pua term.
But the point is this:
It’s “Pair bonding” and, “wanting it less then her” is were great strides are made in the courting process of dating.
Just my thoughts.
Grounding the set
Today did a sarge in the city Melbourne.
13 sets / 5 hooks / 2 numbers.
Was waiting for a date to contact me for a Date 1. She flaked again.
Was doing sets in the city anyways.
Discovered that on grounding, you tell a story about what your currently doing.
I said that I was looking for a T shirt as I didn’t like the current one I had on.
Women love dressing guys. They always recommend a shop nearby.
Great topic for grounding the set.
Not like this American girl I stopped today. Had purple hair. Was nice.
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