I just wanted to write a post about a few things in particular. These things have been proven in my eyes with a particular girl that I have been dating from Daygame.
1. As written by Chris Odom in the book ‘Revelations’. He says on a date you want to be outcome independent and just see were things go naturally.
I think this inner game mindset is very, very powerful because it allows the girl to feel comfortable with you and, try and make a connection.
The Mystery Method spoke about 7 hours being the average but to be fair its more like 14 on average.
Contrary to public opinion you can trade your way out of the friendzone if you get put in there. I have done this before.
I noticed that there has always been this big debate about direct vs indirect. I think most guys are focused on the smaller picture.
The bigger picture is more important. Actually its fundamental to female biology. That is a women needs to feel comfortable with you to sleep with you.
Most guys think with their dick and, don’t see it from her point of view or natures point of view.
If guys just adhered to minimum 2+ dates before they started escalating then I think his results would go up.
This whole idea about ‘what do I say’ is also missing the point. If a girl is not interested in sleeping with you then she will NOT shit test you.
Every girl has her timeline when it comes to feeling comfortable with you.
Think of the girl. Put the girl first. Yes thats right put her front and centre first before yourself. She will think ‘fuck this guy is not such a wierd cunt after all’. She’ll probably even sleep with you at some point.
Whether it takes 2 dates or 10. Does it matter. As long as she’s still hanging around with you. She thinks your a cool guy.
There are some basic truths, I’ve learnt from chatting up women on the street.
The power of subcommunication. Being in the moment with your thoughts and, expressing them through the implied.
That authenticity or spontaneity is your VIBE.
Underneath that is your STATE.
Clearing your mind of the past and future. Expressing whatever comes into it in that moment is key.
The moment comes and the moment goes. A new moment comes and it goes again. You have to let go of that fleeting moment and embrace the new one just as quickly as the old one came and went. This is called being in the now. Being in the moment.
I noticed that women are designed to read facial expressions far better than men.
I think women are attracted to men who have the look of ‘now’.
This is the basis of attraction.
Think a wicked thought about her as you look into her eyes. See that thought crystalize in her eyes. Thats without saying anything.
If you have to say something sexual, infer it. Inference is more powerful then stating it.
Let her draw her own conclusions. Let her imagination run wild. It will do all the work for you. She will then connect those fantasies to you.
Had a stunning girl on an idate and, k closed her.
I just wanted to write about the things I learnt from the idate.
What I learnt from nature is the concept of pair bonding. E.g when you see a bird in your backyard for the first time they tend to run away. As time goes on and, you continue to see the same bird I noticed that they start to come closer.
They even start to hang out with you when your around.
It’s because they are pair bonding with you and thus trust you.
You see this with pigs and sheep on farms. If they are together long enough they become a herd. Best mates
IthinkMen and Women are the same. So what I do is walk the girl from the pickup location to the coffee shop. From the coffee shop to the park. From the park to the alcohol venue etc.
As you do this I noticed the girl starts to accept you more. She is pair bonding with you from walking with you. You lead and she follows. Just like walking a dog. To clarify girls are not dogs by the way. You get my point.
Then you can start the hands, isolation, k close process.
Just be aware not to go past the point of no return. Refer to The Mystery Method book on this point.